[blockQuote position=”right”]Sound communication is about being absolutely terrified but still saying what you have to say because you will kick yourself later if you don’t.[/blockQuote]
[dropcapLarge]L[/dropcapLarge]eaders aren’t born, they’re made. Ever wonder what it took to get you to where you are now and what it will take down the road for you to get where you want to be?
The Talk R-evolution is a movement to help you overcome personal struggles in connecting with people.
It’s about owning your private and embarrassing struggles with expressing yourself despite being great, smart, and talented.
It’s about asking for something that really means a lot to you without feeling guilty.
It’s about learning how to look someone in the eye and be real without dehumanizing them with terse, unkind words.
Sound communication isn’t just about saying the right thing at the right time. It’s about saying what matters the most to you when it counts the most. It’s when you’re absolutely terrified but you have to say it out anyway because you will kick yourself later if you don’t.
I wasn’t always a good communicator. I was the quietest girl in class. The teachers loved me of course. I did what I was told. Always turned my homework in on time. Got good grades. I was always volunteering to help out with something. But nobody really knew me apart from when they saw me outspell my classmates at spelling bees, perform at piano recitals, parade down the street with the marching band, and my personal triumph, sing Beethoven’s “Ode to Joy” with Chorus Pro Musica for a Boston Ballet premier.
I had always thought that by the time I got to college, I would outgrow the tendency to watch life from the sidelines. I figured that someone would eventually notice me. Recognize my keen intellect, creativity and understatedly ironic sense of humor. And may, just maybe, they would invite me into their mercurial, flashy world of dialogue and debate.
But they never did.
Outside the hallowed halls of ‘sensible’ academia, there was a strange world that existed. Where it wasn’t necessarily merit that got people noticed. But how well they were able to spin their story and make it work on behalf of their employers.
After a lifetime of observing people, I could spot a bullshit artist from a mile away. Since I never said anything and nobody asked me for my opinion, my perspectives went largely unnoticed. It really irked me to see the artificiality. The contrived attempts at familiarity. The loud talk and “gimme” approaches that seemed to pass for professional networking touted as avenues for success in corporate culture.
[blockQuote position=”center”]In response, I dug my heels deeper into my peculiar brand of intellectual snobbery and slipped further into self- imposed isolation.[/blockQuote]
I got to the point in my mid-career where my extra-curricular objectives were more fun for me than what I was being paid to do every day. Why? Because in addition to human capital I had found myself investing in, I slowly found my voice. Talking the walk that I had silently espoused for years with hardly anybody looking.
EVOLUTION OF TALK R-EVOLUTION
The day I found myself suddenly looking for another career opportunity (a.k.a. corporate downsizing), armed with severance package, and a vague inner compass pointing “north”, I knew deep down that my walking papers were the swift kick in the ass I had desperately needed to start living an authentic life. A life driven by my rules.
It took still several more iterations and some waffling. Some denial of my deepest yearnings. And overcoming a lot of critical self-talk before I realized that what I really, really wanted to do was help people communicate better.
[blockQuote position=”center”]They say we often seek to teach others what we had struggled to learn ourselves.[/blockQuote]
The Talk R-evolution is my contribution to fascinating young professionals… helping you revolutionize how you communicate and connect with one another. Helping you bring your cool to the front lines. I would love for you to come join me.